When you ask for feedback, you may end up with more questions than answers.

Too often, these requests end up producing feedback that's too generic, too broad, or too disconnected from your goals. And that's assuming you'll get any feedback at all: Many people would simply prefer to deflect or disguise "feedback" to avoid any uncomfortable encounters.

But with a little intention, you can turn every advice-seeking moment into a powerful tool for growth.

Here’s how you can start getting the kind of advice that truly makes a difference in your personal and professional growth:

Be Selective

Before you ask for advice, pause for a moment and think about who you’re turning to. Not all advice is created equal, and the source matters just as much as the message. If you want input that actually helps you move forward, you need to be intentional about who you invite into the conversation.

Pro tips:

• Choose the right person: Pick someone who understands your challenge and whose perspective you value.
• Get targeted input: People with detailed or specialized knowledge may be able to provide more useful advice. Look for someone who can offer trusted and tailored insights.

Be Specific

Once you’ve chosen the right person to ask, it’s time to get crystal clear about what you need. If you want truly helpful input, provide a detailed description of your goals, needs and efforts to date. Think of it as setting the GPS before a road trip: the more precise your destination, the easier it is for someone to help you get there.

Pro tips:

• Define your goal: Clearly state what you’re hoping to achieve.
• Share context: Let others know what you’ve already tried or what you’re struggling with.
• Ask focused questions: Lead others towards your goal with questions like, “What would you do if you were in my position?” or “What’s one thing I could improve for next time?”

Be Strategic

To get the most of your request for advice, approach with a strategic mindset: What approaches haven't you considered? What deeper questions could you ask? The more intentional you are in seeking and applying advice, the more valuable the outcome.

Pro tips:

• Ask follow-up questions: Dig deeper to understand alternatives and future actions.
• Stay curious: The more you probe, the richer the advice.
• Act on it: Show that you value someone's input by trying out their suggestions.

The best feedback you’ll ever get might actually come in the form of advice. By being selective about who you ask, specific about what you need, and strategic in how you follow up, you’ll transform routine feedback into real, actionable results.

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